January is a month filled with resolutions. On the first day of the month, as each of us wave goodbye to the previous year, we make way for all the things we plan to do once we have a fresh slate. We ask ourselves, What will I do better this year? How will I do better? What do I want to change about myself? About my behaviors? How can I improve? Resolutions made by women by and large get a bad rap. At face value, it's so easy to assume they'll all be the same: I'm going to lose weight!; I'm going to wake up earlier!; I'll travel! but if you take a look deeper, you'll notice just how raw and real resolutions made by women — especially moms — are. They're complex, multi-layered, and they're also incredibly honest.
Mothers aren't just making resolutions for themselves. They're constantly factoring in how the things they do and say and believe will shape and influence their children. Though moms are faced with these types of decisions day in and day out, the new year provides an opportunity to look at the year as a whole and to consider all the things they plan to change and improve on. For 2017, Romper spoke to 31 different moms all over the country in an effort to highlight just how diverse, bold, and exciting their resolutions are.
Name: Christie Drozdowski
City and state: Duisburg, Germany from Charlotte, North Carolina
Occupation: Part-time Writer
How old are your kids?: 15 months old
What resolution do you think you're supposed to make? Why do you feel this way?: That I'm supposed to lose weight before I have another child. It's as if that's the only thing that will ensure I'm giving my body the best chance to have another healthy pregnancy.
I forgive myself for doubting my body.
What's your actual resolution this year, and why?: To enjoy the process of preparing and hoping to become pregnant again as I savor every day with my first born, because that's the actual real way I'm going to be healthy going into a second pregnancy.
What's the one resolution you won't make again?: To become a morning person. I've resolved it will never happen, and I'm OK with that.
What's one thing in your life you want to change but don't feel like you can?: I want to change the fact that my husband and I argue in front of our daughter from time to time, but it's so hard to hold our tongues in the moment.
What's one thing you did or didn't do last year that you forgive yourself for?: I forgive myself for doubting my body in my 10-month healing process from having a c-section due to my c-section incision bursting open two months after birth.
Do you tell your kids your resolution? Why or why not?: She's not old enough yet to understand, but I think it would be a great thing to discuss together in time to show her an example of how to grow as a person.
What specifically do you want for your kids this year?: I want my daughter to feel secure in the midst of all the moving my husband and I have done and will be doing this year.