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10 Songs About Miscarriage & Pregnancy Loss To Help You Cope

These songs can offer some solace during this difficult time.

It doesn’t matter if your baby was the side of a poppy seed or a bell pepper. Losing a pregnancy due to miscarriage is heart wrenching, especially if you’ve heard a heartbeat or felt a fluttering in your belly. And while miscarriage is common, it’s still very much a taboo subject, which leaves many women (and their partners) to suffer silently for a loss that can feel almost too difficult to bear sometimes. In those moments when music can be a much-needed comfort, these songs about miscarriage can remind you that you’re not alone.

Miscarriage is the loss of pregnancy at less than 20 weeks of gestation, a PubMed study reported. It’s estimated that about one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). While a miscarriage can be devastating, sometimes knowing that other people have gone through the same thing can make you feel better, and feeling their pain in song reaffirms that it’s absolutely okay to mourn your loss — because it’s real, it’s big, and your pain and sadness needs to be honored, never forgotten. Music can act as a comfort, something you can sing and cry along to, giving voice to your grief in the most melodic of ways.

If you haven’t already, take a listen to these songs about miscarriage, which just might offer you comfort while you heal — both physically and emotionally.

1

“Small Bump” by Ed Sheeran

“Small Bump” is about a parent’s hopes and dreams for their unborn child. Sheeran wrote the song about his friend who suffered from a miscarriage while she was five months pregnant. The song has sweet lyrics like, “You can wrap your fingers ‘round my thumb/And hold me tight/And you’ll be all right.” But it’s the last few lines that will make you cry:

“'Cause you were just a small bump unborn

For four months then torn from life

Maybe you were needed up there

But we're still unaware as why”

2

“I Still Know You” by Jacob Lee

This song is a reminder that often it’s both partners who struggle to put the pieces together after a miscarriage. “I Still Know You” is a song by Jacob Lee, an Australian singer-songwriter and former contestant on Australia’s The Voice. He sings: “You were just a heartbeat, yet to come alive/Just two feet, yet to stand upright/Was just three times we cried that night/'Cause it was four months until you arrived.”

3

“Heaven Needed You More” by Mikalene Ipson

If you need to sob unconsolably, put on “Heaven Needed You More” by Mikalene Ipson. The lyrics are so incredibly relatable that you feel like Ipson has seen straight into your soul. There’s the recurring theme of not being able to get up off the floor, questioning your faith after such a tragic loss, and wondering why it happened at all? The intro alone says it all:

“No words can describe the heartache

No words of comfort anyone can say

I’ve never felt a pain like this before

A piece of my heart died with you.”

4

“Gone Too Soon” by Daughtry

From the moment you get a positive pregnancy test, it’s hard not to imagine your child and who they’ll be. You think about all the amazing memories you’ll make together, like hearing their first real giggle or seeing them taking their first steps. That’s the premise of “Gone Too Soon” by Daughtry, and all the moments (like a first birthday) that will be missed. It mourns the loss and shows the constant questioning that people have about why a miscarriage happens, which, oftentimes, is never really answered.

“Not a day goes by that I don't think of you

I'm always asking why this crazy world had to lose

Such a beautiful light, we never knew

Gone too soon

You were gone too soon.”

5

“Heartbeat” by Beyonce

It might be only seven lines long, but Queen Bee manages to pack an emotional punch with her song, “Heartbeat.” She wrote and recorded the song in 2010 after having a miscarriage. She shared her story in her 2013 HBO documentary, Life Is But a Dream, and shared how she had heard her child’s heartbeat for the first time, and then went back to New York for a check-up and there was no heartbeat. She went into the studio to record what she called “the saddest song I’ve ever written in my life.” And with lines like: “This love wasn’t enough for us to survive/ I swear, I swear, I swear I tried/You took the life right out of me… I’m longing for your heartbeat,” you can feel Bey’s pain.

6

“Let Me Go” by Gary Barlow

British singer/songwriter Gary Barlow wrote “Let Me Go” in honor of his stillborn daughter, Poppy back in 2013. But from the upbeat tempo, you’d never guess it was a song about something so sad. In an interview with James Corden, Barlow said of the song: “It keeps a life and a flame in the whole thing… It’s not my voice, it’s someone else’s.” “Let Me Go” offers hope for the future, with lines like, “Fly high and let me go/That sky will save your soul/When you pass by then you’ll know/That this is gonna take a bit of getting used to/But I know what’s right for you/Let me go.” Cue the waterworks.

7

“4:44” by Jay Z

Not all songs about miscarriage have to be sweeping ballads. It took rapper Jay Z to talk about miscarriage in his song “4:44” to show that partners also suffer when a loss occurs.

He raps in the 2017 song:

“I seen the innocence leave your eyes

I still mourn this death and

I apologize for all the stillborns cause I wasn't present

Your body wouldn't accept it”

Most likely, Jay Z is referring to wife Beyonce’s multiple miscarriages, something she openly spoke about in an Elle interview: “Having miscarriages taught me that I had to mother myself before I could be a mother to someone else. Then I had Blue, and the quest for my purpose became so much deeper.”

8

“Thy Will” by Hillary Scott

On the surface, “Thy Will” looks like another song about getting through the ups and downs of life. But Lady A singer Hillary Scott explained in an interview with Good Morning America that the song was written after she’d experience a miscarriage in 2015. Scott explained that “Thy Will” was written while “experiencing everything that comes with a miscarriage. So it was my most raw place that I could've ever been when this song truly poured out of me."

9

“More” by Halsey

Maybe it’s Halsey’s angelic voice, or the fact that she’s had multiple miscarriages in the past. But there’s something about “More” that hits hard, especially when she sings about “wooden floors and little feet… feelin’ so incomplete… wonder will we ever meet?” You can especially hear the pain in lyrics like, “I sit and stare at your clothes in the drawer/I cry and my knuckles get sore.” Happily, Halsey had her rainbow baby, Ender Ridley Aydin, on July 14.

10

“Spark” by Tori Amos

“She's convinced she could hold back a glacier

But she couldn't keep baby alive

Doubting if there's a woman in there somewhere

Here, here, here.”

And so starts “Spark,” the 1998 song by Tori Amos. It deals with the emotional trauma of feeling out of control when you have a miscarriage, like your body let you down in every way imaginable. It also touches upon the notion of what it means to be a woman, particularly referencing the “Doubting if there’s a woman in there somewhere.” As if you cease to be a person of value simply because you miscarried, which couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Because it’s rarely spoken of, listening to songs about miscarriage seems like a celebration of sorts. It brings normalcy to an issue that affects so many women, and elevates it into our everyday vernacular so that a miscarriage is no longer something to be ashamed of, and allows you to understand that it’s never, ever your fault. Ultimately, these songs are meant to educate people, offer some compassion for those who have survived it, soothe your soul and help you heal.