To be honest, my relationship with my in-laws hasn't always been that great. I've been married twice, so, I've had to navigate two sets of in-laws. It's not easy, and it became even more difficult after I had kids. Sometimes my in-laws have been a part of my parenting village. Other times, well, not so much. They have a sense of entitlement over their grandchildren, and want a say in how they're raised, where they spend holidays, and how often they visit. There are fights every new mom has with her in-laws, to be sure, and I have had them all. Trust me.
In a way, I sort of get it. I mean, grandparents are naturally super excited to be grandparents. They love their grandkids and want what's best for them. And they have years of experience as parents, which us new parents often rely on to figure things out. However, when whatever idea my in-laws have about "what's best" conflicts with mine, they totally need to remember that I am the mom in this equation. If there's going to be a "fight" over how my children are raised, I am going to be victorious. You got to be the parents, now give us a chance. It's our turn.
The bottom line is this: my partner and I get to raise our kids the way we want, feed them the foods we choose, insist on vaccinations before our parents and/or in-laws visit or hold our baby and stay home for the holidays. It's totally up to my in-laws to decide if they will have to adjust their traditions or come to our house for a change. It also means that we don't want unsolicited advice. In fact, don't throw any "tips and tricks" our way unless we specifically ask for it. Sorry not sorry, in-laws, but them's the beaks. Otherwise, we'll just end up having the following fights, over and over and over again: