After struggling through more than five years of infertility, I think it's safe to say I've heard it all. Every single wacky and horrible things people say to women struggling with infertility has been uttered in my direction, so I'm here to give you just a hint of what they are so you can mentally prepare. You know, just in case some well-meaning family member or friends slips up. Nine times out of 10, in my experience at least, people don't mean any harm when they say these things. It's just that, well, they don't think before they speak or even stop to consider how their words will make other people feel.
I have to be honest and say that before I joined the ranks of the infertility crew, I didn't really think much about the way women must feel when someone says something thoughtless about such a challenging, personal experience. For that reason alone I can say that I'm, honestly, a little grateful to be part of this crew. I never could have understood what it felt like struggle with infertility without personally experiencing it. It's not something I'd wish anyone to go through, but it does have a particularly compassionate upside. I'm glad I now think about the ways in which my words come out of my mouth, more than I ever did before, because I think we all should. Rather than just say whatever comes to mind, I think we need to think about how our words will be heard and received. Plus, there is never, ever a good time to point out how short your trying to conceive journey is when you're talking to someone whose journey is seemingly endless.
So, with that in mind and because we should all think twice before we speak, regardless, here are just a few things you should think twice about saying to someone who is struggling with infertility.