Deciding to start a family is such a life-changing and overwhelming and exciting decision. It's easy to let yourself get swept away by those emotions, but having a baby is a big deal that requires
a lot of preparation. Contrary to popular belief, trying to get pregnant isn't easy, and doesn't just "happen," especially (sometimes) for those who want to get pregnant the most. I mean, the best kind of work, but work nonetheless. Women trying to get pregnant will have endless questions and concerns which is, no doubt, why there are a number of things all women who are trying to conceive Google at some point. I mean, if there's ever a time to put the internet to good use, Googling, "How can I get pregnant?" has to be one of them, right?
Becoming a parent is a process and
getting pregnant is the first step. For some, this happens quickly and easily, but for others it takes some trial and error, and occasionally some time (and money and additional resources and procedures). The act of trying to conceive can be fun, sure, but it's also got the potential to be extremely taxing and stressful. When all you can think about is becoming a mother, every day seems to more in slow motion. The longer it takes to become pregnant, the slower the days, until eventually you can't help but feel like time has ceased to exist and, well, so have your pregnancy chances. Fear, man. Fear is mean.
So, what's a person to do when she's confronted with endless days and unabashed fear and worry and anxiety and excitement and hope? Visit Dr. Google, of course! We've
all found ourselves researching various ailments via Google at some point in our lives, but none more intensely than when trying to conceive. So, with that in mind and in an effort to let all women out there know that, hey, you're not alone; here are ten things that anyone that's trying to conceive has Googled at some point. Usually, the devil you know beats the devil you don't, even if the "knowing" comes courtesy of Google.
Everyone knows that when you're pregnant you need to give your body the best treatment possible, but very few know that establishing healthy eating habits for the sake of your future offspring should happen before you're even pregnant.
Fertility diets aren't really all that different from any other healthy diet, with the exception of a few foods and vitamins (or even omitting a few foods) that might boost the chances of conception. Being vigilant with your own health before becoming pregnant will help to make it easier for you as your pregnancy progresses.
Part of trying to conceive is figuring out when your cycle begins and ends. This sounds like a fairly straight forward concept, but if you've got irregular periods then figuring out your cycle can actually be pretty damn tricky. Our periods are usually the last thing on our minds (until the dreaded day when they actually show up) so by using a
period tracking app, you don't have do any guess work when it comes to your cycle.
Again, keeping up with your cycle is vital when it comes to conception. An
ovulation calendar can help you know what days you're most likely to be fertile, which is somewhat of a necessity because, like, who just knows when they're ovulating?! Who said science wasn't sexy?
Best Sex Positions For Conception
There is no guarantee that any one, particular sex position will get you pregnant, just like there's no guarantee that everyone
can get pregnant. However, there are certain sex positions that might help to boost the odds of conception, and who doesn't love to explore in the bedroom?
Certain sex positions that allow sperm to get closer to the uterus are assumed to increase the odds of conception. This is especially good news for women with certain
health conditions like endometriosis or a tilted uterus, that might inhibit or diminish their fertility.
According to WebMD, infertility is defined as
failing to get pregnant after having regular, unprotected sex for six months to a year (depending on your age). The biggest sign of infertility is, of course, not getting pregnant. There really aren't any symptoms of female infertility, but rather signs that something else is going awry in your body that might be causing the infertility in the first place.
Some of those signs include things like irregular or very heavy periods, painful periods, or the complete absence of your period. Also, hormonal symptoms like skin changes, hair loss, lack of sex drive, and weight gain could also be hints pointing towards a bigger problem. Of course, it's always best to consult your physician if your body is feeling off, because after all,
you know your body best.
Things To Avoid When Trying To Conceive
We all love a good happy hour, but if you're trying to get pregnant it may be a good idea to hold off on the cocktails and opt for something virgin, instead. The things that you should
avoid when trying to conceive are basically the same things that you would want to avoid while pregnant. Things like alcohol, smoking, excessive caffeine (single tear), and certain medications can all interfere with an unborn fetus's health.
Now, this doesn't mean that you've got to abandon your beloved java completely. Caffeine, as well as a few other items on the list of things to stay away from while pregnant or trying to conceive, is safe is certain amounts. Anything in excess, including Google, poses potential problems, so talk to your doctor about their specific recommendations for your fertility health.
Alternative Methods Of Conception
So maybe you've been trying to get pregnant for a while now, but the magic just isn't happening inside your uterus. This can obviously be disappointing, but thankfully, there's more than one way to make a baby. Science has climbed mountains in the field of fertility, and there are several different options for couples struggling (or just wanting) to conceive. Things like
IVF and artificial insemination are both very viable options to boost your odds of conception, and you can even freeze your eggs while you're still at an optimal age for fertility so that you can be sure that you'll have healthy eggs when you're ready to become a mom. Some of these treatments are expensive, but what you get in return is absolutely priceless.
Does Stress Affect Fertility?
If you've been trying to get pregnant for a while, your mind might be beginning to slip into a downward spiral of doubt and fear. Stress is an inherent part of life, but it's especially hard to control when you're worried about your fertility and if you're to the point of googling stress, well, it's probably safe to say that you need to take a deep breath.
Science has proven that
stress does in fact affect fertility. That's because stress can affect the hypothalamus, the gland in the brain that regulates your appetite, emotions, and the hormones needed for your ovaries to release eggs. If you're really stressed out, you might be ovulating later in your cycle, or maybe even not at all. This is obviously a problem in the conception department. So if someone is telling you to "just relax," they really do mean well!
Ah, let us count the ways in which we love Chrissy Teigen so freaking much. There are, of course,
many reasons to love the super model/social media maven but none quite so powerful as her honest approach everything, especially when it comes to her struggle with infertility. Teigen recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, but she's been very open with the struggle she endured to get to that point. Teigen told SELF magazine that she couldn't understand why they were having so much trouble getting pregnant since both her and husband, John Legend, were young and healthy. Eventually they decided to move forward with IVF treatments, which Teigen has admitted was also a difficult journey. Even when she became pregnant with their baby girl she has said that she was quite paranoid about making sure that she was okay. Her story is inspirational and it gives hope to so many others struggling with the same thing.
Maybe you feel a little queasy during breakfast or maybe your boobs hurt if the wind blows too hard or maybe you're exhausted or moody or bloated. Whatever it is that's got you feeling "off," has also got you feeling hopeful. If you've been trying to conceive for a while, you're hyper-aware of what's going on with your body. You give Google one final search before heading to the store to buy that pregnancy test and, well, before you know it you're jumping up and down while holding a stick covered in your own urine.
Congrats, mama. You're going to do great.