I have five kids. Yep, five, from ages newborn to tween. My husband and I also have careers we love. To say I'm busy is a serious understatement. Don't even ask me about sleep (because I seriously miss sleep). Most days, I manage to feed them, clothe them, and get them where they need to be on time. Well, not always on time, but I try. How do I do it? Honestly, most days I'm totally a hot mess. Fortunately, over the past few years, I've learned some parenting hacks every hot mess mom already knows (and the rest of you "put together" moms definitely need to know).
Most of these tricks fall into the categories of no longer caring and no longer having the time or energy to care. Things like makeup short cuts, shaving my head, and dressing for comfort have all made this crazy life a little more manageable. I seriously don't care what people think, and I have stopped trying to please people who don't matter. Besides, I couldn't please everyone even if I tried, so what's the point?
Also, I try not to fight at meal times and bedtime, and have figured out ways to stop tantrums before they start. Spoiler alert: always bring snacks and develop a sense of humor about any and all mistakes. I have learned other hacks over the years, too, like how to manage conversations with other adults when you have serious social anxiety, because having kids generally means interacting with others no matter how much you'd like to stay at home and hide out in a pillow fort.
How do I do it and keep sane? TBH, I don't know about sane part (if you figure that out, please let me know), but I have learned a few hacks that help me get through the day and occasionally look like I know what I'm doing (because I totally don't most of the time).