There's a lot of information out there about how to support your pregnant partner when they go into labor, are induced, or have a c-section. You can read articles, attend classes, and, perhaps most importantly, listen to them when they tell you what they need (or don't need). However, there's not a lot of information about what to do if things don't go as planned and labor happens before anyone is ready. However, there are things all grown-ass men should do if their partner goes into pre-term labor, and all labor plans go out the window.
My partner and I became acquainted with the aforementioned list one night at two o'clock in the morning. Trust me when I say that everything is harder at two in the morning, especially when you are 28 weeks pregnant, with a high-risk pregnancy, you have four kids sleeping upstairs, it's the middle of winter, and you live 30 minutes from the hospital. It was one of the most frightening moments of my life. I woke up feeling off, went to use the bathroom, and saw blood soaking my panties. It's hard to write about, even months later and as I snuggle my newborn. I totally and understandably freaked the hell out.
While I was a complete mess, my husband was a rock star. He kept me calm while I called my OB-GYN for instructions, and called my parents to meet us there. He then woke our other children, helped them dress and find coats, carried them to the car, grabbed the hospital bag, and drove us all there, while I was a complete mess. About 30 minutes later, we met my parents at the hospital with our kids in various states of dress and checked me in to labor and delivery.
Fortunately, by the time we got there my bleeding had stopped and, after a couple of hours, the doctors were able to stop my labor, too. I wouldn't have coped well at all had I not had my partner there to support me and keep me calm. So, with that in mind, here's a few things he did to make things a little less scary.