This is in no way scientific, but I'm convinced that new mothers are magnets for unsolicited advice. Some advice may be thoughtful and effective, but the majority of it usually isn't and ends up being more hurtful than helpful. While there are some people who can get away with saying things with a little more frequency than others (hi mom), I'd say that even unrequested guidance from well-meaning family members isn't all it's cracked up to be. That's why there's no denying the things every mom thinks when her own mom gives her unsolicited advice is a mix of gratitude and, well, some internal eye-rolling. I mean, there's nothing like your own mother impeding on your "mom game," right?
In the end I guess it's the people who are closest to you and know you best that feel the most comfortable offering you their "secret pearls of wisdom," although strangers on the internet really don't have that big a hang up in the advice department, either. While I appreciate friends and family members, and especially my own mother, wanting to help me navigate motherhood as best I can, I'm also too exhausted to really sift through everything people think I should or shouldn't be doing and then somehow apply it to my unique family situation. So while some advice is welcomed, it's also completely overwhelming and taxing. Plus, I waited my entire adolescent life to be out on my own in the "real world," making my own decisions. So, you know, like, back up mom. Jeez.
In the end, I know my mother (and every other family member and friend and even kind stranger) are just trying to help. My mom has been there and "done that," and while my baby is not the same as the babies she has raised, she wants to see me succeed as a mother, and she wants to see her grandchild happy and healthy and thriving. Still, that doesn't keep me from thinking the following things when my mother tries to "help" me parent: