I'm constantly re-evaluating my abilities as a mother, making sure that I am, in fact, a "good mom." I'm sure many people would emphatically conclude that I'm not, as mothers seemed to be judged for damn near everything these days, but to the people that matter most, I usually pass the test. Lately, as my toddler son ventures out into the world and makes friends, I've been thinking things about said friends that leave me, once again, re-evaluating. I've realized, though, that there are things every new mom thinks about her kid's friends, and those things don't make you a bad mom. Sure, they might make you feel guilty and sheepish and even thankful, but they definitely don't make you a bad mom.
The older my son gets, the more I realize that the majority of his learning won't actually come from me. Sure, I set the foundation, but he will have teachers and babysitters and coaches and, perhaps most importantly, friends; and they'll all help shape him into the person he'll eventually become. This makes me pretty weary of the friends he decides to associate himself with, even as a toddler. I know, I'm borderline over-protective but I'm also a new mother and, as such, spend the majority of my time in a semi-scared state, making sure that my son is happy and healthy and constantly living his best life. It's a blessing and a curse, I tell you.
So, when I watch my son play with other kids at the park or the playground or some birthday party, I find myself thinking some kind of hilarious, kind of unfair, usually fleeting things that can make me feel like not only a bad mother, but a bad person. I rarely act on these thoughts, though, and I think that definitely counts for something. A mom's brain is constantly turning and, well, it's not my fault if it ends up landing on an unfair assumption. Right? Well, either way, here are a few things I, once again, assume every new mom thinks, and I definitely don't think you're a bad mom for thinking them.