Being a young mom can be difficult enough. People are either far too inquisitive about your age or, once they find out your age, are quick to make assumptions and snap judgments. Being a new mom with a baby face? Yeah, that only exacerbates the issue. People no longer feel the need to ask how old you are. Instead, they simply give you a look and automatically assume you are young (whether you are or not) and then proceed to say all the things every new mom with a baby face is tired of hearing. I mean, as if motherhood wasn't exhausting enough, new moms with baby faces have to worry about these sweeping judgments, too? Give us a break, society. You're relentless.
I, personally, have received some unnecessary (not to mention, uncomfortable) stares at restaurants and grocery stores and even at the park, from both random strangers and people I thought were my friends. It is the most frustrating and hurtful thing in the world, especially as a new mother who is just trying to find her way and adjust to her new life and take care of her baby to the best of her ability. To have someone automatically assume that I couldn't handle motherhood because of how I looked was not only detrimental and hurtful, it was an added pressure that I didn't need. In fact, if I may be so bold, it's an added pressure that no mother (regardless of age) needs.
As a young mom and a mom with a baby face, I can assure you there are many things I get tired of hearing almost every time I go out somewhere. Yes, the looks are bad, what with the raised eyebrows and smug noses, but the passing comments or judgmental questions are by far, without question, even worse. If we're going to create an environment that supports all mothers, regardless of their age or how they look, I would say it's probably best to rid the following phrases from our collective vocabulary. After all, you can't judge a book by its cover, right?