I don't care what other moms say, I love the newborn period. So much so that I often spend all day snuggling my baby. It makes sense. He was inside my body for nine months, and now I feel a bit lonely and empty when he's not in my arms. But despite this need to snuggle, there are a few things I make sure to do without my baby every single day, at least when I remember. My memory doesn't work so well these days.
I do things that allow me to feel "normal" again, like showering and putting on makeup. I stay up to date on current events like reading the news (even when it's freaking depressing) reading a new book, or catching up on my favorite shows so they don't get spoiled for me on social media. I also do little things that help me remember who I am (or who I was before I was simply "mom") like exercise and journaling.
While I don't judge other moms who spend their baby's first year perpetually snuggling or feeling trapped on the couch, under the weight of a sleeping baby, I know that doesn't work for me, and it would probably not be good for my mental health. I believe that motherhood doesn't have to mean martyrdom, and if we don't stake a claim to the time and space we need to feel happy and healthy, no one else will do it for us.