You are a savvy reader, aren't you? I mean, I can safely assume you know what's coming, right? If you're not, rest assured a long, certainly not exhaustive list of the ridiculous things cisgender men actually said to me about labor and delivery is in your immediate future, and if you're a person who has been pregnant and prepared for childbirth in any capacity, I have a feeling you'll be able to relate, too. I have a feeling it will also cause you to chuckle a time or two, the wound of condescension still fresh enough to cause some ripples of rage and hilarity, all at once.
For the men in the audience, this isn't meant to shame or make fun of you. If you feel shame, however, that might be something you want to explore a little further. Perhaps this list hits a little too close to home? Perhaps you've said some of these things yourself in an effort to be helpful? Like many of you, I'm sure, I would love to erase "mansplain" from our vocabulary. You know how we do that, people? By helping the men in our lives to confront and change their mansplaining behavior. When it's not happening anymore, we won't need a word for it.
Now then, the first step of this eradication of mansplaining process is developing awareness. Once the men in your life have awareness of their mansplaining behavior, they then have the opportunity to make a different choice. With choice comes the opportunity for change. With that change, it is my hope that ours will be the last generation of laborers to hear these things men have actually said to me about labor and delivery.