The night that I became a mom, I was instantly initiated into that club of people who feel like they should know everything automatically. In the first few weeks, I was extremely conscious of not seeming like I didn't know what I was doing, reticent to ask for advice or admit I really needed help. As the weeks went by, I started learning about that universal new-mom feeling that we have something to prove, and I realized there are so many things you should never feel ashamed to ask for as a new mom.
I was a nervous new mom. Not because I'm that kind of person, but because I entered motherhood at warp speed after waiting for years to start our family. We got a phone call one morning and that night, well, I was a mother. And the whole time I was waiting, I didn't prepare out of some sort of ridiculous superstition that if I did buy the baby books or stock up on adorable outfits, we would never become parents and I wouldn't be able to bear it. Not rational, but I think fairly common.
The most confirming and reassuring conversations I had as a brand new mom were with other moms and involved asking for help or advice. While I had been nervous that they would view me as a fraud who should have cracked open What to Expect: The First Year once or twice, they were eager to initiate me into the club that quickly goes from clueless to "I got this."