Mom-shamers don't discriminate. No matter what parenting choice you make, someone will find a way to criticize your decision. It's hurtful when the comment comes from a stranger or an acquaintance, but I'd argue it's not too hard to let those comments roll off your back. When you have a relationship with the person, say a mother-in-law or friend, it becomes more complicated. It's perhaps the most distressing, though, to have the source be your significant other. I asked women to reveal the mom-shaming they've heard from their own partners, and it was eye-opening.
Eighty percent of millennial moms deal with mom-shaming, according to a 2017 survey conduced by baby food brand Beech-Nut. And, according to a report from C.S. Mott Children's Hospital, 36 percent of parenting criticism comes from a mom's own parenting partner. Now, this could be because the number of interactions we have with our partners is greater than those we have with virtually anyone else, or because we're just more inclined to interpret what's meant as a gentle suggestion as an attack when it comes from our partner. It's just as possible however, that insensitivity and lack of respect are the culprits.
Being a mom is a tough gig, and when your partner judges you on anything from your postpartum body to the way you parent, they make it that much harder. Just ask these women: