If you were overwhelmed by baby shower feels before you had a kid of your own, you haven't seen anything. Going to a baby shower once you're a mom can be like navigating a field of invisible emotional triggers you didn't even know existed. In fact, it's not unlike keeping up with the ongoing relationship dynamics between the Kardashians and Kanye West and Taylor Swift. You will be intrigued; You will be confused; You will be humbled; You'll wonder why you're feeling so many feels in the first damn place. You'll kind of want to pretend it's not happening at all.
Will you miss your own baby, who you left at home before you wanted to let him nap but now you totally wish you brought because you can picture him in all the footie pajamas the guest of honor keeps opening? Yes. Yes to all of the above.
For the most part, I enjoy baby showers although I can totally understand why some people (mom or not) have mixed feelings about them. They can, at times, feel forced and dated and awkward. However, usually, if I’m attending one it’s because I have some fondness for the mom-to-be and want to show her some support during this glorious and intense time in her life. Still, that need to be supportive doesn't trump my own personal, often internal feelings. Allow me to share a bit more about what goes through a mom’s mind at another mom’s baby shower: