I am lucky enough to consider my mother my best friend, and have only grown closer to her since becoming a mother myself. I know that not everyone has that ability, because their mothers are either no longer with them or they are toxic and unsupportive, which only makes our relationship more meaningful to me. We live on opposite sides of the country, which means we text and talk on the phone every day. When I was pregnant I sent her texts; When I was in labor I sent her texts; When I was breastfeeding I sent my mom texts, and those texts were a constant reminder that even though I was a mother, I still needed my mother.
Which is honestly the most important lesson I think I have learned as a mother, to date. Just because I am a mom, doesn't mean that I don't need love and support and encouragement and someone to vent to and someone to care for me, and only me. Sometimes that person is my partner and sometimes that person is my best friend and, well, sometimes that person is my mom. I love being able to lean on my mother and learn from my mother, because while parenting is constantly changing and evolving and mothers are learning new and different ways to care for their children, sometimes there's nothing better than listening to the soothing advice of someone who has been there themselves.
These days I'm texting my mother about toddler tantrums and how to get my kid to eat vegetables and when potty training will end (if it ever freakin' ends because please someone save me from all this pee), but when I feel with nostalgic I will look back at all the texts I sent my mom when I was breastfeeding. Here are just a few (because some things should stay between best friends):