Before my first pregnancy, my partner and I had only been together just over a year. That's not a lot of time to figure out if things will work out or not, especially when you're as young, immature, and lacking direction as we were. Of the things I'm glad I didn't know about my relationship before we decided to have a baby, I'd say the one that stands out the most is our lack of communication. It was obvious, from the very beginning, and yet we marched onward, hand in hand, dedicated to making it work.
When I first met the man who would end up being my husband, plans for marriage and babies weren't things I was actively thinking of. I'd just come out of a 4 year relationship and, at that age, still looking for my place in the world. Upon meeting my partner, sparks flew instantly and, the rest is history. However, at the time I had no idea how vastly different we were. From childhood to career interests, there was very little we had in common. It didn't matter, though. That saying about opposites attracting? That was us, hanging onto the common thread of an undeniable chemistry we still cling to today, 13 years later.
Honestly though, if I'd known all the hardships we'd face as a couple once we had kids, my opinion on sticking it out might've changed. With that, here are some of the things I'm so glad I didn't know about my husband and I back then. Turns out, having children would only prove to amplify those things. Live and learn, I guess?