So, I know most of us are familiar with the idea of not sharing news of your pregnancy until the second trimester. But not everyone does this (which is clearly fine; share your news whenever feels good to do so for you). Regardless, if someone tells you they are pregnant during their first trimester, you're being let in on a very special time. Special...and scary and insane and happy and scared some more. If you are one of the chosen few to whom an early pregnancy is revealed, may I offer first offer you some congratulations, and then immediately after that, can I share some suggestions for what not to say to someone in her first trimester of pregnancy? Lots of scary stuff can happen in those early weeks, so many of us are slightly on edge.
For example, the first people who knew early on that I was pregnant were my husband, my parents, his parents, my brother, and my boss. And actually, my boss finding out was a bit of an accident because I was acting all shifty and trying to casually mention that I had to you know, just swing by and see my doctor for a blood test. Nothing to see here, nothing out-of-the-ordinary going on, nope, nothing at all. Needless to say, she figured it out in like 0.3 seconds. Oh, we also told the car salesmen who were taking us out on test drives because winters here are intense and I’m pregnant and it just got real you guys, we need something super safe. Did you hear me? SAFE.
Anyway, most of the time the responses I heard were very excited and supportive. However, throughout the duration of my pregnancy, I also heard a few things that were not. Allow me to share this list I’ve put together on the topic: