Staying connected in a relationship can be difficult enough when you live in the same city. Add in a few hundred miles to that equation, and you've got yourself a major challenge. Like all relationships, those of the long distance variety take work. Unlike relationships that happen in a close proximity to one another, there are certain things long distance couples do to stay connected, despite the miles. Because miles are no joke, especially when you're trying to create a future with someone. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but what if that absence is long term?
It's no secret that long distance relationships are not for people with weak constitutions. No, you've got to be strong and determined in order to come out on the other side with your relationship in tact. If you're in a long distance relationship, I'm sure you've got tactics of your own to keep yourself connected to your partner despite the distance. If you're venturing into the land of long distance love for the first time, grab your pen and get ready to take a few notes. Long distance relationships aren't easy by any means, but that doesn't mean they have to be hard. Read on and find a few ways to strengthen your connection to your partner, even if they're halfway across the world.
1. They Trust Each Other
Though trust is paramount in any relationship, it takes ultimate trust to participate in a long distance relationship. You're miles away from one another, and insecurity can get the best of you on those lonely nights. Trust is what will keep you sane.
2. They Utilize Technology
In this day and age, it'd be silly not to use technology to your advantage. Especially when it comes to long distance dating. From FaceTime to Skype to Snapchat and everything in between, seeing your partner's face when you miss them has never been easier. New Love Times noted that utilizing technology on a daily basis will help you feel more connected to your partner, even if you can't reach out and hold them as often as you'd like.
3. They Connect Throughout The Day
Speaking of technology, use it often. Whether you're shooting them an e-mail to catch up, planning a Skype-session when you're both out of work, or sending them silly photos of your day, keeping in touch throughout the day will make you feel more connected in the long run. (Just be sure not to inundate your partner every day all day, because that can be a turn off.)
4. They Practice Independence
Couples who thrive in long distance relationships aren't afraid of doing things on their own. They have their own lives, apart from their relationship, and it helps them in the long run. A relationship is doomed to fail from the start if your partner is your only partner in crime. From friends to hobbies, being an independent person despite the fact that you're in a committed relationship will help you feel stronger. Plus, you've got more to tell your partner about at the end of the day if you've been active in your community, rather than just sitting around and pining for them all day long.
5. They Take Turns Visiting Each Other
Extensive travel can take a toll not only emotionally, but on your bank account too. Split the visits, and your relationship will be better off. It doesn't have to be an equal split, after all, some schedules are more flexible than others. But it is important to take turns visiting each other, so that you both feel like you're being catered to.
6. They Stay Positive
Let's face it, long distance relationships are not easy. At the end of the day, a body pillow just doesn't do your partner justice. But you've got to stay positive. Otherwise, you'll wind up in a pit of distance-despair, and that's not healthy for anyone involved.
7. They Surprise Each Other
Is there anything better than opening your door to find a surprise waiting for you? Whether it's your significant other, or a special gift from them, surprises from your significant other make you feel like they're thinking of you, even when you least expect it.
8. They Get Creative
Yes, long distance couples who last get majorly creative with how they connect. Besides technology, there's snail mail, long distance projects, scavenger hunts, and more. Use your imagination to keep yourself connected to your partner, and you'll both be thrilled with the result.
9. They Discuss The Details
Yes, even the little things. When you're living separate lives, miles away from one another, the small stuff can be the important stuff. It's easy to think you did nothing during your day, but it's not often the truth. Whether you were at work, or just the farmer's market — tell your partner about it.
10. They Do Things Together
This is where the creativity comes into action. Doing things together while miles apart can prove to be a little bit difficult. Luckily, with the invention of the internet came a lot of possibility. From watching television shows together, to listening to music, to reading a book at the same time - the possibilities are endless.
11. They Plan Ahead
Scheduling your significant other into your life is just as important for long distance relationships as it is for those of close proximity. Planning ahead to the next time you're going to see one another, be it on the screen or in person, is key to feeling connected to your partner. Keep a countdown calendar to make things exciting, go on, try it.
12. They Still Get Sexy
Distance does not mean the death of a sex life, y'all. Yes, thanks to technology you can totally see each others faces while you get down. And if that's too much for you, sexting, breathy voice mails, and special occasion sexy times are all available for your (and their) pleasure.
13. They Ask About Each Others Lives
Just the way you share the details about your day, you long distance couples who rock ask their partners the same. They pay attention to one another's lives, even if they're happening states (or countries) away. Know your partner's friends names, know their schedule, know their hobbies, their extracurricular activities. Your partner will see that you care about their life, and not just them.
14. They Don't Fight Via Text
Passive aggressive texting is not the cornerstone of a long distance relationship. If you need to fight (which sometimes, you will), fight fair. Don't send nasty text messages in hopes of proving a point. Keep it above the belt, and wait until you're on the phone, or ideally until you're face to face, to really get into it.
15. They Remember It's Temporary
Above all, remember that this distance is temporary. You will see each other again, even if it seems like it's been forever. Making plans to squash the distance between you, keeping in mind that you won't have to suffer this longing (pun intended) forever, it will help you stay strong, and help you stay connected to your partner.