Revealing a pregnancy can be a complicated, drawn-out endeavor. For me, there were a number of people (family, close friends, my supervisor) who knew before other people (other family members, close but not-as-close friends, colleagues) who still knew before other people (Facebook land, absolutely everyone else). Some people needed to be told in person, some were sent a text and some figured it out on their own, when they accidentally saw my nausea wrist bands or when my attempts to brush off concerns over my pending doctor’s appointments failed miserably. And, well, some of these complex conversations ended with (sadly) some of the worst responses to saying “I’m pregnant”. When you share your pregnancy news multiple times, in many ways, you're bound to receive a plethora of reactions. It's just science, I think.
This is not to say that a pregnant woman needs to be coddled or that you should censor your feelings when someone reveals a pregnancy. Obviously, everyone is entitled to their own emotions and reactions to big news, especially when it's as big as procreation. However, I ask that you, perhaps, pause and consider how your responses is going to make someone who’s embarking on a major life change, someone who’s probably not feeling super awesome, and someone who potentially feels like a throbbing blob of hormones, actually feel. I mean, you might be shocked or concerned or some other emotion, but just imagine what the woman who is actually pregnant is feeling. From experience, I can tell you that it's not all joy and happiness. Sure, she may be happy, but she's probably also scared and unsure and a bundle of juxtaposing emotions that can make her reality a bit, um, heavy.
So, honestly, it's just better to err on the side of sensitivity and support your pregnant person in those first few moments. There's plenty of time to voice any concerns you may have as her pregnancy progresses and she has had a chance to wrap her mind around the fact that she's having a baby. So, maybe just promise not to respond to pregnancy news in any of the following ways, OK? OK, good talk.