After having a baby, so many of women rely on intuition to get through those first few months. Whether it's breastfeeding, sleeping, or being ready for post-baby sex, women tend to focus on what makes them feel good and what just feels right. But sometimes you need a little bit of science to prove we're on the right track, like finding scientific reasons that sex is better post-baby.
I know, post-baby sex is not a topic many like to talk about. In fact, it may be something you've been worrying over since before you were pregnant. Not only are you caring for a newborn infant that is completely dependent on you, but you're also recovering from a major physical change (whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section). And do I even have to address the fact that you may not want anything near your vagina for quite some time?
But studies have shown that enjoying post-baby sex isn't a myth. Research from the University of Michigan found that not only are women engaging in sexual intercourse frequently after birth, but they're also interested in masturbating, proving that the sexual desires are still there after giving birth. In fact, further analysis of the research discovered that the desire for sex was not just because of a sexual attraction, but also the need for intimacy during those first few months of parenthood. And although many like to blame breastfeeding or lack of interest for a lack of post-partum sex, the study proved that assumption wrong as well. When a couple was not having sex, they blamed fatigue and stress for being the reasons why.
Despite this particular scientific research proving that postpartum sex is a thing that actually happens (no matter what the sitcoms try and say), it doesn't necessarily encourage people to believe the sex will be better. But these four scientific reasons prove that sex improves post-baby. Thanks, biology!
1. Your Vagina May Have Changed Directions After Childbirth
I know — where else could it go? But OB-GYN Susan Lin told Women's Health that your vagina may actually change directions after giving birth. Because of this, your partner may be able to stimulate your G-spot in a way they couldn't before, bringing you to orgasm.
2. You're Having Less Sex
If you've noticed the sex is less frequent than usual, but it seems to be better, there might be some correlation. A study found that when people felt obligated or required to have sex, they were less happy and satisfied. But having sex because you simply are in the mood and want to? That makes everything better. Think about it — before giving birth, you may have had sex just because you felt like you needed to. You might have even worried that the two of you weren't having enough sex, so you instigated a night in the bedroom because you felt like you needed to. But when there's a baby in the mix, sex is bound to become lower on the priority list. So chances are, when you're having sex post-baby, it's because you really want to, and that makes sex so much better.
3. Your Vaginal Muscles Are Stronger
OK, sure. You pushed a baby out of there, but post-baby sex can be a whole lot better with those vaginal muscles. Why? Kegels. As the American PRegnancy Association notes, if you're doing your kegels to promote vaginal strength and help your body heal, those exercises can make your orgasms feel more intense.
4. You're Bonding With Your Baby
You wouldn't think the bond with your newborn baby would help your sex life, but it can. That love hormone, oxytocin, is released after giving birth and helps you to feel connected and bonded with your new little one, according to Live Science. But that same hormone can make you feel lovey-dovey towards your partner and want to be around them all of the time.