If you’re able to wake up on a Saturday morning when you
don’t have to go work and think, “I’m going to just stay in bed until it’s dark
again!” and you are not immediately tackled by tiny monsters who are determined to rouse you from bed and spend the rest of your "day off" sucking the
energy from your veins, you’re probably not a mom. However, if
your mornings — regardless of the day of the week — are spent traipsing after littles and figuring out how to manage kids' schedules, then you're definitely a mom.
The point is, motherhood is tough as hell sometimes, and as such, I think all moms could use a little
appreciation for their day-to-day mastery of raising humans. You know what moms
don’t need? Body shaming. Of all the things on my holiday wish list, body
shaming simply wasn’t one of them this year. Keep in mind, new kitchen sponges
made the list. Body shaming did not. Still, I found it wrapped up nicely in the
form of weight loss ads about baby weight and plastic surgeons offering mommy
makeovers. Seriously? We're still at the point where sending moms an onslaught of messages about how horrible and broken (but fixable, for a very reasonable price!) their bodies are now is acceptable and commonplace?
In looking out at the landscape of today’s fashion trends
and beauty scales, I can’t help noting that the ways in which moms are made to feel awful about their "post-baby bodies." (How is that even a term?! Bodies are just bodies, and lots of things change them! Gravity will, if nothing else! Why are moms the only ones burdened with carrying around an unsolvable distinction between "the past when your body was fine" and "the present/future, when your body is ruined because of that child you love so much.") While some messages are so blatant that they barely stop short of saying, "Hi moms, your body is a giant disaster now, so good luck with that, you sexless old witch," there are others that are so engrained in our society that they're just constantly around us, sending more subtle messages about how "messed up" women's bodies are after having kids. Here are a few examples of what that looks like: