When you're in a new relationship, there are likely some things that you do and some that you choose not to, for whatever reason. Relationship habits can form pretty early-on. But you may not have considered some of the seemingly innocent habits in your relationship that actually sabotage your physical chemistry, which might be worth thinking a bit more about. Though you might think that habits and the things that you do or don't do in a relationship would have more bearing on your emotional intimacy, they can seriously impact your physical connection as well. And since those things are actually related, it makes sense that things that affect emotional intimacy might also affect physical chemistry.
"Physical chemistry is built on emotional chemistry," Dr. Laura F. Dabney, MD, a psychotherapist and relationship expert, tells Romper via email. "If two people emotionally relate well, the natural culmination is physical intimacy."
These habits, in and of themselves, aren't necessarily the worst things that you can do or total and complete relationship-killers. Instead, they're things that you might think are no big deal, but are actually having a very real effect on your relationship and your connection with one another. Breaking habits can be difficult, but trying to avoid doing certain things that you know are hurting your partner in some way could make a big difference in your relationship. Dabney says that explaining to your partner how it makes you feel when they do whatever that particular habit might be can be a more effective way of motivating them to make a change. Knowing what you might be doing (or what you both might be doing together) that could be inadvertently hurting your relationship is an important place to start.