Hate is a strong word, yet so many of us use it so liberally. In reality, it's just a lazy way to describe something a person dislikes deeply. I mean, the English language is full of synonyms for hate: despise, detest, loathe — all beautiful words with similar connotations. Hate, however, is perfectly fine to use when describing the first few months postpartum. And the people you'll hate in the first month postpartum probably asked for it in one way or another. Maybe it was a rude comment that put them on top of your you-know-what list, or maybe it was their simple existence that made you want to lock them out of the house and change the keys. Either way, hate won and love lost during that first overwhelming month post-birth.
The thing is, it's really difficult to control your emotions when hormones are raging inside your body. You can try to be rational all you want, but much of that struggle is futile. The hormones usually wins and the hate builds. I hated much of the beginning of new motherhood, to be honest. I hated how I felt, I hated how other people treated me and my baby, and I hated how much was automatically and unrealistically expected of me. I hated all of the rules, all the restrictions, and feeling totally incompetent as a first-time mom.
But the people? Well, the people were the worst. So many people annoy you so quickly and endlessly when you're postpartum. Why do they do these things? Why can't people realize you have just been through something draining and terrifying? I mean, labor and delivery alone can scar a person for life, so add a newborn to that mix and life can feel pretty uneasy. So when people start giving unsolicited advice or asking you a ridiculous amount of questions, you can't help but develop feelings of hate.