When I found out I was going to be a parent I was both excited and terrified. I mean, I knew absolutely nothing about parenting. Like, at all. I’m the youngest in my family and while people were quick to tell me my “instincts” would kick in, I know that's bogus. Learning to parent another human being is all trial and error; a grueling emotional process that has plenty of ups and downs. So trust me when I say it's worth it to look for the signs you're the mom your baby needs. It's easy to drown in a sea of self-doubt when you're a new mom, but if you look close enough you'll realize that you're actually doing an amazing job.
When I was postpartum I experienced this weird mix of overconfidence and lack-of-confidence, and it took a while for those two polar opposites to eventually hit neutral and settle. I’m a worrier, so I worried... a lot. But I would experience daily parenting "wins" that made me feel like I had everything under control. But I can be exceptionally hard on myself, and learning to parent was no different. I also had the guilt of growing up in a society that, well, shames moms for not being utterly perfect.
Eventually I grew comfortable as the parent of another human being, and noticed a few details that made me realize that while I was clueless, I was the only woman on the planet that could parent my son the way he needed. It’s all a learning process, to be sure, but if you're doubting your ability to be the mom your baby needs, just see if you've ever experienced the following. If the answer is a resounding "yes," then trust me: you're off to a great start.