This will come as no surprise to those who know me, but since having a baby a few years ago my own feelings about Mother’s Day have shifted completely. Suddenly, the day no longer represented an obligation — a responsibility to check in with my own mom either via brunch or a phone call or a card or an email — but became a chance to reflect and celebrate. That's not to say it's always been fantastic, though. In fact, I think there are more than a few reasons it's totally fine if you hate Mother's Day. Honestly Mother's Day, like other holiday designed to recognize a specific person in your life (Valentine’s Day, Father’s Day, National Talk Like A Pirate Day), can elicit a wide range of responses, and that's perfectly OK.
To be fair, I’m sure my own experience is merely the tip of the iceberg. The relationships I have with my own mom, my mother-in-law, my son, and everyone else who falls under the “mother/child” umbrella aren't traumatic or dramatic or even negative. I can only offer words and emojis of support to women who can't say the same and, as a result, struggle to find an ounce of celebratory "goodness" on a day that only serves as a painful reminder of a difficult relationship or past.
So, if your own feelings about Mother’s Day are conflicted, complicated, or so unapologetically clear that everyone around you knows you absolutely despise this one day out of the year, allow me to share a few reasons why this is still absolutely fine: