Among the many, giant leaps we've taken (as a society) to undo previously accepted ways of thinking, is the push to be a more sex positive. However, this social shift doesn't make teaching sex positivity to your kids any easier. In fact, there are so many reasons why it's harder than you think to raise sex positive children; reasons that aren't easily eradicated by a movement that is gaining momentum but it still constantly questioned.
So, what is sex positivity? Sex positivity is a simple and relatively self-explanatory concept. The goal of sex positivity is to change our attitudes towards sex by normalizing different sexual relationships, sexual preferences, and varying opinions of sexuality. Basically, as long as sex is consensual and safe, it's a great thing that everyone should feel free to enjoy. Instilling these basic concepts and values is part of creating a more sex positive environment for our kids to grow up in.
Years ago (and not all that long ago and, honestly, still today) kids were taught that sex was a taboo thing; that it was something reserved for married men and women and that its sole reason for existing was the sake of reproducing. We were taught that it was "dirty" and an all-around inappropriate topic of conversation. We were made to view ourselves (as well as others) as perverted for having sex or thinking about sex or talking about sex or being viewed as sexual in any way. Thankfully, the conversation has shifted.
Today, the stigma surrounding sexuality is fading (to a certain degree). We're (arguably) able to openly discuss our ventures in and out of the bedroom, as well as the exploration of one's sexual curiosity, without the relenting ridicule of others. Of course, there's still plenty of shame and judgement to go around, but the overall attitude our culture has about sex is changing, and that change is palpable.
We've still got a long way to go, thought, and a big part of moving forward and stomping out any sort of sexual stigma includes raising our kids to be sex positive. There are definitely some things you can say to your kids to help them be more sex positive, however, raising sex positive kids is (sometimes) easier said than done. Why, you ask? Consider the following reasons why you might run into some problems when teaching your kids to be unapologetically sex positive.