When it comes to my kids, I can't help how slightly overprotective I am. OK, fine: I'm more than slightly overprotective. I hover, so there are times my affection and protection may come off as "smothering." Of course I mean well and only want what's best for my kids, but there's always going to be some who think my way isn't the "right" way. What is the right way, really? This is why I have a whole list of things all helicopter moms should say to the haters.
I don't remember being much of a helicopter mom when my oldest was little. I shielded her at times, to be sure, but I think my need to overprotect came after I suffered through two miscarriages, then finally had my rainbow baby. He was such a miracle I feared something might happen to him. I never intended to helicopter, it just sort of became part of the way I mother him, and eventually that spilled over into how I parent my daughter, too. If you ask my kids, they'll probably tell you I'm strict or "no fun," but my choices don't stem from spite or control. Instead, they come from a place of wanting them to be OK, always.
It's only when I step back to see things from others' perspectives that I start to wonder if maybe I could take it down a few notches. However, my kids are great. They're well-adjusted, happy, and healthy. They make good choices (for the most part), and we have an open line of communication. I must be doing something right. With that, here are some things helicopter moms (like me) should say to the doubters, haters, and instigators. It's time to shut it down.