There's nothing "easy" about having children, regardless of their gender. But I will say that the challenges of raising a daughter are particularly daunting. For my partner and I, and in these days in particular, it's vital that we raise our girl to be strong, independent, and unapologetically herself. We don't want her to cave to societal pressure, feel insecure, or compare herself to impossible and damaging beauty standards. As her mother I do my part, but there are things every grown-ass man teaches his daughter about body positivity that are just as important as any lesson I could give my daughter. And there's no mistaking the power of my partner's perspective and influence.
My daughter just turned 11 and, so far, puberty hasn't been particularly kind. So no matter how I feel about myself — and I have bad days, for sure — I'm always acutely aware of my daughter's ability to hear every word I say, and notice every reaction I have when I look in the mirror. And while I'd love to simply tell her, "Do as I say, not as I do," that's not the way this whole parenting thing works. To raise a body confident child, I have to be body confident first, foremost, and always. I must lay the foundation by setting an example.
Because it's not always easy for me to feel confident in my own skin, I'm thankful my partner is there to back me up and, sometimes, take over entirely. I know I'm in a unique position, as her mother, to teach my daughter what it truly means to love your body, but her father's opinion and advice and actions and words matter, too. We both know that when it comes to giving our daughter the gift of body positivity, it's a team effort. So with that in mind, here are some of the things every grown-ass man should be teaching his daughter about body positivity: