Marriage is full of unique battles, specifically when discovering you're pregnant. My partner and I had only been together a little over a year when I became pregnant with our first child (and we were young) so we hadn't really talked about or planned on getting married just yet. With our second, five years later, we had married and moved closer to my partner's family in hopes we'd have a bit of help with both children. In a short time, I realized some important things that every pregnant woman needs her in-laws to know, because it's important for the sake of all relationships involved.
When we moved to be closer to my partner's family, maybe our expectations were too high. Being from a state over, my family is scattered throughout and reachable after a one or two hour drive. We had the opportunity to move closer to his family, so we did. Knowing we'd have people surrounding us, both his mom and dad, for the first time in our relationship was pretty exciting. Our daughter was just 3 years old at the time, so obviously we hoped she'd get to spend more time with those she loved and for awhile. In other words: success.
Once I discovered I was pregnant with our youngest (our son), we'd gone through a hell of a lot. Two miscarriages, severe postpartum depression, relationship and financial struggles, and our time being near his family seemed to be less-than-stellar. Even as I endured an excruciating pregnancy with my family so far away, the move became a lonely decision as we ended up not spending that much time with my partner's family at all, forcing us to question if it was the right thing to do.
I still think back on those days of pregnancy, when my amniotic fluid was dangerously low. I was put on bedrest and really sick but only had help, mostly, if we reached out first. Aside from all of that, we began to see and realize things that sometimes accompany marrying into someone else's family — and being pregnant on top of it. It was a lot and, honestly, sent me into a deeper depression than before. With that being said, here are some of the things every pregnant woman needs her in-laws to know because the truth is, life is too short.