Nothing test the strength of a marriage like parenthood. If you didn't already know whether or not your relationship can withstand things like sleep deprivation, regressions, tantrums, finicky eating phases, and the never-ending defiance that comes with toddlerhood, get ready. You might think you know everything there is to know about your relationship with your spouse, but I promise there are some things you can only learn about your marriage after you survive sleep training. The decisions you make when you're that damn exhausted are without a doubt your truest colors shining through.
My husband and I have done the sleep training thing twice. I was fairly confident our marriage could endure almost anything, too. I mean, if you can make it through pregnancy and all the ups and downs that come with growing a human in your body, surely getting a kid to sleep would be a walk in the park, right? Ha. And, no. We had no idea what in the hell we were doing, especially as first-time parents. And even after we finally managed to get our daughter on a solid sleep schedule, regressions would happen and we'd be back at step one: trying to sleep train all over again. We couldn't take our frustrations out on our baby, but we definitely could take them out on one another and, unfortunately, sometimes that's exactly what we did.
Then, five years later, we had our son. His severe acid reflux made sleep training even more difficult, so having "been there, done that" didn't assist my husband and I in the slightest. So in the end, and no matter how often you've done the sleep training dance every night before bed, trying to teach a child to fall asleep on their own is difficult. And those difficulties will absolutely teach you the following about your marriage: