Before I became a mom I worked the usual outside-the-home jobs. My pregnancy was a difficult one, and, at about the midpoint, I was put on bedrest. As a result, I quit my job. So, honestly, the choice to be a stay-at-home mo wasn't really a "choice," but a consequence of circumstance. Still, there are things I wish my partner said to me when I finally decided to be a stay-at-home mom. I know a few choice comments would've made me feel like it was the right thing to do.
When I announced my choice to be a full-time stay-at-home mom, the news wasn't exactly welcomed with a warm reception. Understandably, my partner was afraid of finances, the future of our relationship, insurance, and all the other justifiable concerns. He silently supported me in the beginning, but I always felt resistance. It became clearer when those around him made their opposing opinions known, which essentially influenced the way he treated me. While I see how this sudden change of events concerning my employment (or lack thereof) could be worrisome, I was intent on making it work regardless. To know that he trusted me would have, you know, helped.
Due to my own marred experience growing up under the care of various incompetent sitters, I vowed not to let any of my future children go through the same. If it was within my power to be with them, if only for a while, then I would — objections be damned. With that said, there's still so much I wish my partner had said to me about my choice to stay home with our first baby (and now both our children), because it would've empowered me at a time when I really needed it.