Becoming a mother is the truest reckoning, especially when you think of the dramatic changes it brings. While you gain a new human (and a completely different set of breasts), you lose some things about yourself in the process. Good or bad, these traits may have been ones that made you feel uniquely you. I know the feeling, because there were a lot of pre-baby things about myself that I lost the moment I became a mom. Not all of them were things I mourned losing, but still, the overall change was jarring.
I wasn't aware of what I had lost when I became a mom the moment it happened, though. The recognition happened over time, slowly and in hindsight. For the most part, I don't miss the pre-baby things about me that are no longer a part of me. A lot of them are parts of me I am better off without. The things motherhood essentially took away from me helped me form a new (albeit, still flawed), more improved identity that feels stronger, more grounded, and more purposeful.
Motherhood, with all its complicatedness, is, on the whole, a gift. Here is a list of some of the things I lost the day I became a mom: