Today, more moms work outside the home than they did in previous generations. Still, and while dads contribute to household chores and are more involved parents than ever before, moms are burdened with the majority of the household work and child rearing responsibilities in addition to their full-time jobs. In other words, being a working mom is still harder than being a working dad. Why? Because moms are still considered the primary caretakers of their children.
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the percentage of American households with dual-career couples rose from 34 percent in 1975 to 47.7 percent in 2014. Still, numerous studies have shown that women still take on the bulk of the housework. In fact, according to one such study out of Indiana University, highlighted by HuffPost, in most American homes "chore roles align with traditional thinking on masculinity and femininity ― even among couples where a woman is the primary or sole breadwinner and even in same-sex couples." Long story short, women are still taking on the bulk of the household responsibilities while simutaleousy bringing home the bacon. Who says you can't have it all, right?
My husband and I divide our responsibilities based on our schedules. Since I come home from work earlier than my husband, I pick up our son from daycare, take care of homework with my daughter, and cook dinner. My husband then bathes the kids and puts them to sleep as I clean up after dinner. But while my husband is a fantastic dad and partner, I still do the majority of the housework and childcare in our home. I still do most of the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, the childcare, and the household management. I'm still the primary worrier, scheduler, and go-to multitasking parent. When we were childless our household responsibilities were split pretty evenly, but children added a lot more to my plate and only about half as much to his.
Honestly, another reason why responsibilities are so unevenly split in our household is because many things just don't occur to my husband. He doesn't think about what activities our kids should be doing, he doesn't really realize our kids grow out of their clothes and shoes and need to go back-to-school shopping, and he isn't concerned with their yearly well-visits and semi-annual dental checkups. These things are just simply not on his radar. I mean, I have to remind him to get a physical, so how can he remember that the kids need one? So with that in mind, here are just a few reasons why being a working mom is forever harder than being a working dad. Period.