Our society is broken. Shattered, actually. It values beauty over substance, money over ethics, and popularity over intellect. It glorifies pregnancy but downplays the fragility of postpartum. Our society embraces women who "bounce back" and wear their "pre-pregnancy jeans" immediately postpartum, forces women to constantly evaluate and judge themselves and each other, and creates cliques and feelings of superiority and inferiority. In other words, it fosters feelings of inadequacy. While the postpartum body is most vulnerable to critique, lucky for me, I don't care if society loves my postpartum body. I don't care what anyone has to say about my body ever, in fact. Sure, people will talk, but their talk has no significance on my life and happiness.
I was naively under the impression that once I left high school, the cliques and criticism would stop. I had absolutely no idea that judgement actually increases in both frequency and intensity as you age and gain experience. Some of us are more fragile than others. Some of us take others' critique close to heart. We hear the whispers, we feel the judgmental eyes, we internalize those words, and then we turn them into self-hate.
I'm friends with some of the most beautiful, intelligent, and kind women, and they never stop talking about how "fat" they are. It's as if we have all been programmed (we have been, btw) to hate ourselves. I say enough. Enough with the self-deprecation, because it's not cute, it's not trendy, and it has absolutely no positive impact on anyone. It's time to love our bodies, and concentrate on something more productive than self-hate.