Mom friends are a godsend; a saving grace; a lifeboat when you're drowning in a sea of parenting responsibilities. They listen to you rant, make you feel like you're not alone, and maybe even help you realize that, no, you're not failing at motherhood after all. My mom friends have helped save my sanity on more than one occasion, but there are still things I don't tell my mom friends. Hey, we all have our secrets, right?
Look, I try to be open and honest and as transparent as possible. I truly believe that as women, and mothers in particular, we do a great service to those suffering in silence or feeling like they're failing if we share our stories. The expectations society places on mothers' shoulders are nothing if not cruel, unusual, and unrealistic, so if we can share the real moments of parenthood, we can essentially combat the idea that a mother must be "perfect" in order to succeed at parenting.
But there are some things I really and truly just want to keep to myself. Sometimes I don't want to mention that my kid hasn't had a bath in a while because I'm embarrassed, or because I don't know if my mom friend will relate, or sometimes I absolutely know she won't relate but I don't want to ruin a perfectly good play date by bringing up something we disagree on. I think that's the art to a good mom relationship: knowing when you should share some information and when you should keep your mouth shut. So, yeah, I'm going to continue to keep the following to myself. For now, at least.