I just joined a new writing group. As an introductory exercise we had to share our bios and a little about ourselves. When everyone was acquainted, I realized (with horror) that I totally forgot to mention my child, or even refer to his existence at all. Of course, that instance wasn't the first time this has happened. It's not that I'm forgetful, really, it's just that there are certain times you'll completely forget you're a mom. Like, at all.
Sometimes it's because you're still getting used to the title, trying it on like a new dress and not quite feeling comfortable. Other times it's when you're having a lot of fun and feeling too young and care-free to be someone's mother. Then again, sometimes you're just too preoccupied with something else because, of course, mothers are not completely defined by their choice to enter motherhood.
As a result of these totally normal moments in which parenthood slips your mind, modern parents are redefining the terms "mom" and "dad." Parents can be what they want to be. There is no rule book and you don't have to repeat the same patterns your parents set in place (if you don't want to, of course). You can choose to live the way that best suits your family's needs. Gender rules and expectations are changing all the time and family units will always need to balance work and home expectations. So, if you are ever feeling overwhelmed by your responsibilities, try a few of these exercises that may just make you completely forget you're someone's mom: