A baby changes a marriage, or a couple, for better or for worse. One day, it's just you and your partner, without too many responsibilities, and you both come and go as you please. You stay up half of the night watching your favorite sitcoms. You party with your friends, eat cake for dinner and pizza for breakfast, and have minimal worries. Then, a baby enters your life and you start bickering. Sadly, the trivial things all first-time parents argue about are, for the most part, pretty impossible to avoid. That's just the power of sleep depravation, dear reader.
Babies are overwhelming. They come in like a hurricane, disturbing peace and forcing change. The world you've created as a couple quickly undergoes a paramount adjustment in order to facilitate this new human you've welcomed to the world. Nothing can prepare two people for what a newborn brings, including advice or someone else's experience. New parents are thrown into the battlefield with no training, no arsenal, and no point of reference. It's sink or swim. Fight or flight. It's scary and unpredictable. It's a minefield.
Parenthood is amazing and incredible, but unfortunately, the wonderful parts are very seldom enjoyed in the very beginning. I consider the first few months of parenting a period of hazing, to see if you're really cut out for it all. Of course most of us pass the test, but not without a few battle wounds.