When I get upset, and I can't get that negativity out of my brain, I call my BFF and bonafide mom-friendly venting buddy, who I'll call K. We've been friends since we were teenagers, and one thing I love about her is her deep, heartfelt sympathy. She doesn't necessarily offer advice, she just lets me talk out my thoughts and feelings and doesn't make fun of the fact that you can hear how ugly my ugly cry is through the phone. ("You're so human right now, I love it," K often tells me.) Every mom needs a venting buddy like K, because even when things are going well, we still have a lot we probably need to get off our chests.
Of course, it's important to bear in mind that while venting can feel really good, it isn't necessarily a solution. In 2002, a study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that venting anger doesn't reduce aggression. Instead, it can often lead to an increase in aggressive behavior. So vent with caution, for sure.
But just saying how you feel to a sympathetic soul can be cathartic and an important first step in feeling better. After all, a 2015 study published in Motivation and Emotion found that while there is a "deterioration of mood following crying," for example, after some time a person's mood can "increase above the levels that it had before the emotional event." So trust me when I say that it's worth finding yourself a venting buddy, and for the following reasons: