When it comes to parenting, my husband is definitely the passive one out of the two of us. He's not 100 percent passive in the rest of our life, but I'm the one who gets sucked into parenting forums at 3 a.m. when I'm wondering why our daughter's nose won't stop running. I'm the one who Googles the safety standards of car seats and looks up the latest research on disciplining a toddler. Is it annoying? Sure, but with parenting, at least, there is a whole bunch reasons parenting with a passive person just works.
When my husband and I were planning our wedding we were living 5,000 miles apart. Up until the last six weeks before the wedding, I was essentially in charge of the planning and it was blissful. When he returned, however, he had a whole lot of opinions and it was infinitely more annoying. We learned that it's often better for us to have one of us take the lead and the other follow. He's in charge of travel planning, cars, and real estate. I'm in charge of the children and the house. Most days it feels like an even split.
There are drawbacks, yes, like the fact that sometimes I wish he would know why we had to move our daughter to a convertible car seat without me explaining. Still, I'm choosing to focus on the positives until the negatives become overwhelming. I should throw in the disclaimer that my husband doesn't not care about raising our daughter, he just knows I'm going to do the dirty work and made the very smart decision to let me take the lead most of the time. So, with that in mind, here's why parenting with a passive partner is actually pretty beneficial. Well, at least for us.