No doubt about it, some days feel like drudgery when you’re a parent. But there may come a point when you’re no longer thriving; you’re just trying to survive until sundown (and, you know, when the kids go to bed). And even after they're asleep, it might seem like there’s no relief in sight. Sure, a soothing soak in the tub might've helped in the past, but you need more than that now. These signs that your mom burnout needs more than a bubble bath to fix it could mean there’s a lot more than just a tired lady lying beneath that soapy surface.
The thing with burnout is that you might not even realize you’ve hit rock bottom right away. You might falsely assume that this is how your life is, but it shouldn’t be. “Burnout is more than just feeling tired,” Dr. Teralyn Sell, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist tells Romper. “Burnout can lead to problems with anxiety, deep depression and the inability to sleep.” And it doesn’t stop there. When you’re under large amounts of stress, your body responds with the production of the stress hormone cortisol, which the Mayo Clinic explained can disrupt your serotonin and dopamine levels, making you one sad, miserable momma.
This deep depletion can wreak havoc with your physical health, too. “Burnout can affect anything from ulcers to heart disease, high blood pressure, and headaches and migraines,” Natalie Mica, MEd, a licensed professional counselor in Texas, tells Romper. “These symptoms and illnesses then impact relationships, job functioning, and long-term well-being.”
If you’re unsure whether you're experiencing a bad burnout, these signs can offer some insight — and help you to make things better.