Sharing stories about our children on the internet is pretty common now. Uploading a few pictures and adding some sweet captions is something that many, if not most, parents do. Yet, as I'm sure you have learned by now, when you share with the internet you're voluntarily putting yourself out there. So when we share online people assume we're really saying: "Dear stranger, please tell me what I'm doing wrong as a parent." Well, we're not. In fact, when I post a picture of my kid, I'm saying: "Don't ask me about my parenting unless you follow these rules," because online or not, there's still a right and wrong way to go about asking personal questions.
Parenting in the public eye, as many parents in our society tend to now do, can be difficult. In private we answer to ourselves only. No one knows I've just fed my kids bologna sandwiches for dinner for the third time this week, unless I post about it online. No one watches me lose my cool on my toddler in the privacy of my own home. And since no one sees it, no one can comment on it either. In private, I am my own critic.
On social media, however, everyone comes out of the woodwork to offer an opinion on your parenting. And most of the time, questions about your parenting on social media are actually critiques of your parenting neatly wrapped in the facade of curiosity. I am more than happy to offer parenting advice when asked politely and properly. I'm even totally fine with judgmental posts, because I expect those no matter what I do. What I don't like is ingenuity and fake curiosity. Just don't bother me. I don't care.