One of my least favorite parts of being a mom is being shamed for my parenting choices. Sadly, I have a ton of personal experience in this specific parenting area. I've been a mom for over nine years and, so far, I've been shamed for everything from how I birthed my babies and supplementing with formula, to sending them to daycare and letting them pick out their own clothes. But because I've had a lot of practice, I’ve also been able to figure out the best ways to handle mom-shaming, and perhaps more importantly, what not to do when I encounter other moms who make different parenting choices than the ones that work for me.
I didn’t always have such a thick skin, though. When I was a first-time mom, unnecessary comments and passive aggressive questions about how I fed my baby, why I decided to go back to work, and even the rate at which my child was meeting developmental milestones seriously hurt. As a result, I lost friends and confidence in my abilities as a mom. It took a long time for me to recover and grow brave enough to say something when I, or other moms, are mom-shamed, but now I have no problem speaking up. After all, if we don't collectively demand better from one another nothing is going to change.
It seems that mom-on-mom shaming has become synonymous with motherhood, and the amount of isolation and self-doubt moms feel as a direct result of this bullying cannot be understated. So we have to find ways to combat these judgmental, hateful, and inappropriate comments, questions, and outright attacks if we're going to help the next generation of moms feel loved and supported. So why not take a page out of the following veteran moms' book, right?