Just because you have sex, doesn't mean it's easy to talk about sex. Having any sort of the sex talk can often feel scary and awkward, but it's especially uncomfortable to talk about postpartum sex. You may feel extremely vulnerable and concerned about hurting your partner's feelings. But communication is key to any successful relationship, which is why learning how to talk to your partner about postpartum sex is of the utmost important.
As awkward as the conversation make be, not talking about sex — postpartum or not — can lead to bigger issues down the line. "When you avoid those vital conversations, you might avoid some awkwardness, but you're also settling for suboptimal sex," sex and relationship educator, Kate McCombs, told Healthline. Basically, it's time to get real with yourself and your partner if you want to have a satisfying sex life.
Talking with your partner about sex after child birth also creates understanding. If you don't speak up, your partner may not know that things feel really different "down there", or they might not know how postpartum haywire hormones are impacting your libido, or they could have no clue that you're struggling with body image issues - effectively killing your sex drive.
If you want to be on the same page you'll have to speak up, but how do you do it? Here are seven tips to help you start the postpartum sex conversation.