Just about any time I have ever talked to a pregnant woman, the conversation inevitably turns to poop. Specifically, the fear that they're
going to poop during childbirth. They're haunted by the idea of just how embarrassing such a thing will be. But the truth is, when you're in the throes of labor, pooping in the presence of relative strangers is the least of your concern. In fact, you'll be far more embarrassed after your baby is born than you ever will be while you're delivering them.
I love motherhood.
Not all the time, but I've found that the highs outnumber the lows when all is said and done. But one thing motherhood isn't is cool, at least not in the "OMG, look at her, she is so cool" kind of way. In fact, motherhood will make you so decidedly uncool it's pretty hilarious. And in your most uncool moments, you will feel embarrassment; an embarrassment far greater than taking a dump in front of a nurse who fully expects you (and every other person in the ward) to take a dump in front of her at some point.
So if this is a legitimate fear of yours, have no fear: it's only going to get worse. But hey, at least you can prepare yourself, right? So with that in mind, here are just some of the many moments that will make pooping during childbirth feel like child's play:
When Your Boob Pops Out In Public
The chances go up by a
ton if you breastfeed, but even if you don't nurse there's still a high probability that you're going to flash a stranger at some point. Things are pretty chaotic and it's hard to keep track of everything and, in circumstances like that, it's totally understandable that, at some point, a boob is going to come loose. There are a number of UPS delivery dudes throughout the New York metro area who, I'm sure, swap stories about that harried-looking woman who always had a nip showing when she came to the door.
If you're lucky, you won't notice until after your interaction with another person, and you can melt in embarrassment by yourself.
When Your Kid Has A Public Accident & You're Sans A Clean Diaper
It will happen to all of us at some point: our kid will soil themselves (ideally when they have a diaper on) and you turn to your bag only to realize,
whoops! There's nothing in there. Maybe you forgot to restock after your last outing. Maybe your kid just went through that many damn diapers, like you're made of money and love nothing more than to clean their waste. Maybe you simply forgot because that bag is packed with 2,455 other things your child needs.
When this happens (and when it does, it will inevitably be when your child has the biggest blowout of their life)
you will get creative. You will swaddle their bottom in a spare onesie, some newspaper and duct tape, your nicest cardigan, or whatever other throwaway piece of clothing you can find. It will be awful and embarrassing but you'll all live.
When Your Kid Throws A Public Temper Tantrum
It's bad enough when they're infants and melt down because, well, they're infants and they are probably living in a constant state of existential crisis because what even is this chaotic, bright world they've been pushed into?! Their loud shrieking is never pleasant, but I feel like more people will tolerate that sort of thing from someone "fresh out of the oven." Once they hit toddler years, however, and even though they're not all that much better at expressing their emotions in a reasonable way, people
expect them to be calm and adult-like. So you better believe that their banshee-like wailing paired with the judgmental side-eye of strangers is, well, a lot to endure.
When You Have To Carry 50 Lbs Worth Of Stuff With You
You'd think that such tiny humans would be
pretty easy travel companions. False. They need all the things. My kids are older and it still takes forever to get out of the house sometimes. Still, now that we're out of the baby phase I can pretty much just go with a regular-old purse and maybe a snack or two. But babies? You need to basically transport your entire nursery — diapers, wipes, changing pad, nursing and pumping equipment, someplace for them to sleep, toys, snacks, blankets, stroller, spare clothes — so you can meet their unpredictable and seemingly endless list of needs.
no one looks cool carrying a pack and play and a diaper bag the size of a grown man's torso.
When You Know All The Kid Shows
This is your life now, folks. You have opinions on the best episodes of
Peppa Pig and the best humans on Sesame Street. You know all of Curious George's hijinks.
When You Don't Know Anything About Pop Culture
My pop culture references more or less stalled out around 2010. Because once I became pregnant with my first I was too exhausted to move unless I absolutely had to... or someone told me there was
cake in the break room. And then my child was born and it's like, "HA! Yeah, you're never leaving your apartment ever again, lady." And when I finally did leave my home to go on a long-weekend vacation guess what dummy went and got pregnant again?
So, yeah, I think I've gone to about five movies in the past eight years and most of them have been
Lego-based. So please don't ask me about whatever cool new actress is doing, because I can almost guarantee you that I will have no idea what you're talking about.
When Food Falls Out Of Your Bra
You don't remember the last time you gave your kid Goldfish, but somehow, when you did, one landed in your bra only to fall out now, at the most embarrassing moment possible.
But hey, at least you have a free snack. Goldfish are delicious.
When You Can't Stay Up Past 9:00 P.M.
Remember when you and your friends wouldn't leave
your apartment until 11:00 p.m.? Remember how you'd spend hours getting ready so that your hair laid in perfect beach-like waves down your back?
It is now 8:23 p.m. and you are wearing whatever came out of your closet first that still fits and you're struggling to hide your yawns while your child-free friends order their entrees and OMG, whose idea was it to make an 8:00 p.m. dinner reservation?! Who eats that late?! (Aside from you, a few years ago, when a 10:00 p.m. reservation wasn't a big deal.) Someone offers you
another glass of wine and you demurely refuse with a casual "I'll have another with dinner," but the fact of the matter is that if you have anymore alcohol you will pass out in front of everyone.
When Your Home Is A Disaster
Your home just is not up to your pre-child standard. Even if it's all tidy and clean, the fact that your life is now ruled by a small child is pretty clear. There's baby stuff everywhere. I once swore that there would never be toys visible in my living room and
that was hilarious.
Point is, your carefully crafted, Pinterest aesthetic will not survive your firstborn. And, spoilers, if you opt for a Pinterest perfect nursery that isn't going to last, either. Your baby DGAF what looks good. Your baby just wants to be able to pull everything apart and leave it for you to clean up. It's their favorite game. It's their extra-favorite game right before you have company over.
When Your Baby Is All Poopy
Everyone around you knows what that smell is. But you're online at the grocery story with a cart full of stuff and you can't zip into the bathroom (that doesn't even have a changing table for some reason) to, literally, handle your sh*t. So there you are, just smelling and harried and, if you're lucky, your baby is also crying because they want their diaper changed.
Motherhood is beautiful.
When Your Kid Rats You Out
If you ever talk sh*t about someone in front of your child, your child will inadvertently but
inevitably ensure that the person in question will be hearing every damn word you said.
When Your Clothing Is Stained With *Something*
If your kid didn't land a nice blob of puree on you, then you did it to yourself. My family always made fun of my mom for spilling something on the front of her shirt at every meal, but I understand now that this is just something, biologically, that clearly happens to moms.
When You Have One Of Everything In Your Purse
"You need Motrin? A tissue? A snack? Tape? A hair tie? A Band-Aid? Here, I've got you."
"OMG!" your friends laugh, "
You're such a mom now!"
"Shut up, guys! No I'm
But you are. You
are such a mom now.