In what felt like minutes after giving birth to my second child, people were asking if my partner and I were going to go for kid number three. While I was annoyed I wasn't necessarily surprised: debating the best number of kids to have isn't anything new, and everyone seems to have their own, usually unwavering opinion when it comes to the size of families and what's "best." While I'm firmly in the "you do you" camp, I have to admit that now that I'm a mom of two, I think two kids is absolutely the best number of children to have.
Yes, I'm biased, but after four months living as a mom of two I have quickly learned how beneficial having two children, and just two children, can be. Because I'm parenting with a partner we can divide and conquer; a parenting technique that, I assure you, works wonders and has made me feel like we're evenly splitting parenting duties. There were moments after my first son was born when I felt like the whole parenting thing was falling solely on my exhausted shoulders, but with the added responsibility of another child we've been forced to openly communicate about who needs to do what, and as a result have been more equitable with the division of labor. I also have the opportunity to watch my oldest grow into his role as big brother, and while knowing my youngest will never feel left out because he's "the baby" and no one ever forgets the baby of the family.
Sure, being a mom of two is difficult, and there are moments when I wonder why my partner and I decided to blow up our lives and have another child. We had a good thing going with baby number one, had just started getting a solid eight hours of sleep every night, and were even sending our kiddo to pre-k, which gave us a little more free-time to enjoy one another. But in the end I know our family wasn't complete without our newest addition. And now that I have two kids I know we have the perfect number of children in our family, and can call it quits on the whole reproducing thing. Here's why: