While there are so many unknowns associated with pregnancy, there as one undeniable fact I didn't like focusing on: my pregnancy was going to end... in pain. How much pain remained to be seen, but I knew chances were high that I would tear. A lot of women are afraid they'll "never be the same" after childbirth, but after two kids I can assure you it's more than possible. So if you're thinking about labor and delivery and cringing, hopefully the reasons why I didn't care if I tear during childbirth can help assuage your fears.
It sounds like a cliché, but even the worst moments of pain were ones I forgot as soon as my baby was laid in my exhausted, aching arms. And you know what I didn't think about, even once, during the entire labor and delivery process? Vaginal tearing. I was too focused on getting my babies out to worry about what was going to happen in order for me to do so.
The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists estimates that anywhere between 53 and 79 percent of vaginal deliveries result insome vaginal tearing. And while it doesn't make it any less terrible or traumatizing for some women, pregnancy prepares the body for this potential outcome of childbirth. Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale Medical School, tells Self that the hormone relaxin [stretches] tissue and moves the pubic bone to let the kid out of there." The point? Don't stress about any of it until you have to. Here's why I didn't: