As a mom who has breastfed, formula-fed, pumped, and combo-fed three babies, I've pretty much seen it all. I used to think how I fed my babies made all the difference in the world, too. Maybe it's because some people place breastfeeding and formula-feeding moms on opposite sides of the spectrum, or because there's so much hype about feeding babies in general. Either way, I've since learned that there are a ton of anxiety-inducing situations breastfeeding and formula-feeding moms all go through. Every single one. How you feed your baby can't save you from some downright overwhelming moments, which is why we should be supporting one another instead judging, shaming, or labeling individual choices.
I'm not just talking about postpartum anxiety, either. I'm really referring to the things that seem to happen every damn day to make new moms feel overwhelmed, scared, worried, confused, and like they have no idea what they are doing. I'm talking about those small yet somehow monumental decisions that leave you wondering why someone trusted you with a newborn baby in the first place. Because, yes, it's typical to worry about your baby's health and development, stress out when they are sick, and forever want what's best for them. All new moms feel that way, no matter how they feed their babies. And the anxiety that we feel about breastfeeding or formula feeding? In my experience, at least, it's temporary. As they say, this too shall pass, and when it does your worry will seem almost laughable.
In the end, us moms have a hell of a lot more in common than we might think, especially in the beginning. I think it's time we start talking about it, too. Maybe then we can get past our differences and start supporting each other through all those heart-stopping moments that make us panic.