Can we all just collectively agree to stop badgering each other with all this so-called advice? If you're anything like me, unsolicited advice just makes you feel alone and frustrated. This was especially true when I had a colicky baby, and feeling alone and isolated was par for the parenting course. What are the bits of "advice" every mom with a colicky baby dreads hearing, especially when it seems like every other baby in the world is sleeping through the night at just 3 days old? All of the advice.
Seriously. All of it.
My first child never slept. Like, ever. Seven years later and she still sleeps less than most kids her age, which I've since learned is common for autistic kids. However, when she was a baby I was living in sleep deprived hell. My firstborn spent the first five days in the NICU. When my partner and I got to take her home to our tiny, temporary studio apartment, she spent the next two months reverberating the concrete walls with her screeching cries. Not sometimes. Not even most of the time. Our walls were shaking 24 hours a day, every damn day.
As first-time parents, my partner and I had no idea what to do. We were petrified we were doing something wrong, or that our daughter was sick, or that the world was literally ending. The pediatrician treated us like we were overly-sensitive whine-a-lots, so we learned to shut our mouths. We hated people giving us pieces of "advice" because, well, people were treating colic like it was no big deal. Guys, I'm here to tell you, colic is a big f*cking deal. There's nothing you can do about it, you're not sleeping, and it absolutely sounds like your tiny baby is a screeching baby eagle being torn apart from the inside out. With all of that on our minds, you can understand why the minimizing bits of advice thrown at us was met with absolute dread.