We've all heard it: the giggles, the knowing glances, the jokes about "all the sex" people get to have when they're trying to conceive (TTC). If you're anything like me you find these remarks to be at best boring, and at worst nauseating and hurtful. From difficulties conceiving to ignoring pregnant people's actual lived experiences, I think it's worth it for us all to spend some time unpacking reasons people need to stop romanticizing getting pregnant.
There is a lot of risk when you assume things about what it means for someone to get pregnant. Not all circumstances surrounding getting pregnant are identical. Getting pregnant can be a very loaded situation for some people, even when it is a happy time and depending on their individual circumstances. It's totally fine if you are romanticizing your own process, or romanticizing your best friend's sexcapades while she's trying to conceive if she's in on the joke with you. But romanticizing getting pregnant in general is problematic for a whole host of reasons, not the least being that there is inherent privilege in believing that pregnancy is always a good thing. The truth is that not all mothers and their potential babies everywhere are equally advantaged and have access to healthcare, sanitation, or quality of life.
If you don't know the person's specific situation, and they haven't given their permission for you to wear those rose-colored glasses when you take a look at their personal, often private experience, take those glasses off for all the following reasons: